To current life standards, my 20s and my 30s were not what I would have wanted if I had known myself as well as I do now. But looking back, my childhood and teen years established the role of family in my life. My 20s established the role of love in my life and my 30s established the role of career in my life (it appears I’m not a good multi-tasker). Spirituality has been the most pervasive theme in my life and physical body and health the most neglected (at least I’m consistent). All those decades, and all that education, mistakes and all, have crystallized into “me.” The totality of me as was never defined before (I’m on a theatrical kick, aren’t I)?
I went to the Chick-fil-A Leadercast on May 6, 2011. It was held in Atlanta and telecast to other locations. One of the speakers was Suzy Welch whose presentation was about her 10-10-10 strategy. Any decision she makes is based upon evaluating the 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years ramifications. In addition, she provided three other questions to guide decision making:
- what would make you cry with regret at your 70th birthday party? (what is your legacy?)
- what do you want people to say about you when you’re not in the room? (speaks to your values that are most important to you)
- what did you love about your upbringing? what did you hate? (keep it in perspective so you don’t repeat the past)
I really enjoyed her presentation so went to buy her book 10-10-10: A Fast and Powerful Way to Get Unstuck in Love, at Work, and with Your Family (affiliate link). I read it one weekend and I very much recommend it. (In addition, I recommend the Leadercast. I got a lot of good stuff out of it although admittedly I’m a bit of a self-help junkie.)
On page 223, she discusses a dinner party where the attendees tried to name 12 people who were actually living the life they wanted. She says: “Candidates don’t need to be without battle wounds; they didn’t even need to be successful by society’s standard measures. They just needed to be , we all agreed, at peace with themselves.”
She hopes that by sharing the 10-10-10 strategy, she can get people closer to that peace. On page 21, she describes a client’s moment of breakthrough as “the peace of mind that comes with intentionality.” Wow, I feel “more “intentional” and in control than I ever have in my life (though not completely there) AND realize it (I’m a little dense occasionally). Do you? Good, then let’s all join hands and sing…..